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Control Me to Control You

Was recently reading an Article on how tears know no gender... however society has always tried to associate tears as a sign of weakness....  I remember mentioning this in an earlier post , and somehow, the thought evokes the exact same emotions...  I am all for privacy of emotions and especially tears. But that doesn't deny anyone the right to shed a tear.. whether in memory, or in heartbreak... On a different, yet somehow related note, assuming all household face the same music, every house takes a certain effort from all members... expecting one person to manage the show is not only difficult, it is unfair... Having said that, each person has their own way of pitching in, which needn't necessary the way you'd want/like it... Also, more often than not, household chores are on a higher priority for women as compared to men.. so while men seek control elsewhere,  women seek control in household issues... I am not sure who is the controller, and who is being controll

Accountability

Being responsible for someone is tough, but taking responsibility for someone is, i think, tougher... No wonder so many of us think a million times before taking the leap of starting a family....  But it seems to be a natural step, a kind of progression of life... from being accountable to someone, to being accountable for someone.... one must complete the circle.... And what does it imply if one begins to look forward to it ?

Job Well Done ?

All of us work... some on our own free will, and some for the corporate world, and a lucky few who manage to achieve both... While I am pondering how to best do the work at hand, I often wonder about the choice to be made... whether to the best I can do with the one opportunity I have to prove myself, or to do a good job leaving some space and energy for other things lined up... Some might argue that every job should be done with an attempt to achieve perfection, and only then do we come close to achieving something worthwhile.... at the risk of sounding lackadaisical, putting your heart and soul into everything at hand is very exhausting....  So I am always left wondering where to give in my 100%... but the balance will get nothing at all....  So much for work - life balance !!!

Responsibility

All of us like to feel that we are responsible beings.... responsible about our family, friends... responsible about the work we do.... there are almost infinite facets.... And each, has a unique sense of satisfaction, almost irreplaceable... But what happens when you've bitten more than you can chew... how does one face the consequences.... when you feel you are duty bound and responsible, but all you want to actually do is run away from the scene....  Is this just a moment of weakness or your gut suddenly giving you signs ???

Healthcare in India

Someone very rightly once said "Health is Wealth". We may be rich or poor, young or old... what makes are life better is a life free of any illnesses. And keeping our body & its wellness intact seems to be becoming an expensive affair... n ot just in India, but globally. People running this business are faced with the problem of deciding between making the business break even v/s doing what the hospital is there for, that is take care of its patients in the best, most efficient way (the two needn't be mutually exclusive though). Since building even a decent hospital/medical care setup takes loads of money, it is but natural for the people taking the initiative to look out to banks.... However, private equities wanting to put in money (and expecting 25 - 30 % returns in exchange) is a dangerous proposition to my mind... Whether it is Max group, Fortis or any of the other ones, one can easily note the trend in their billing...  excessive tests, unnecessary scans

Dependence - Independence

In the hope of helping them, we take their independence away... With the wish of making them feel safer, we hold their hand all the way... Little to we realize that we are actually stifling them... Not letting them do what they want, the way they want... Though the article in HT i read yesterday, by Namita Bhandare talks about the other end of the spectrum, the emotions are the same...

The Child Inside

I bounce around enjoying my time Jumping over fences, kicking stones... I don't care what people think, infact it doesn't even occur to me to bother thinking... Then suddenly, I grow up.. and I feel I realize the stares all around... I realize that girls are not supposed to jump fences & kick stones I am not sure it is good to be aware.. or if it is better to not care... 'cause the society seems to penalize you either way..

Age

Age is a funny thing... It makes us wiser, but gives us lesser opportunities to apply the wisdom... It makes us  more experienced, but rarely provides for people (willing to hear ;))to share this experience with...

Anger

Anger is a funny thing makes you do what you shouldn't makes you wish that you hadn't done it anyway and still doesn't give you the satisfaction of what you wanted

Action.... Reaction...

Watching Haider told a very hard hitting fact loud and clear.. That as a nation, we might think that all the violence is justified... that keeping in mind the bigger picture, it is all for the better... But for those stuck in the middle... the ones actually affected.. they'll always have a different tale to tell.... whether is it Punjab , Kashmir , Assam ...... What we often overlook, is that every action has an equal and opposite reaction... so for such widespread action, there will be a similar mass reaction... waiting to happen somewhere.....

Wavering thoughts

the mindless banter the conscious avoidance the constant look out  wondering what you are upto it feels strange to be so aware of senses beyond my own of a fluttering in my heart and a pace quite unkown I was dangerously close to take the deep plunge to try and please you oh my dear ego !

India under Colonialism

All of us have different views about the British influence on Indian culture.. whether it has done us good.. bad... made us more civilized... English... But whatever one might think, I don't think any of it is worthwhile, at the expense of our Independence.... Different people have come up with different perspectives to the issue, but Shashi Tharoor seems to have nailed the emotion... Below is what he said at a debate in UK on  Indian subcontinent benefited more than it lost from the experience of British colonialism . ------ Last week, on the very day that Scotland was deciding its future, six of us gathered in London to debate the past.  To commemorate the 400th anniversary of the British presence in India -- King James I's envoy, Sir Thomas Roe, arrived at the court of Emperor Jehangir in 1614 -- the Indo-British heritage Trust held a debate, in the chamber of the UK Supreme Court, on the motion "This House believes that the Indian subcontinent benefited mo

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Why do they always teach us that it's easy and evil to do what we want and that we need discipline to restrain ourselves? It's the hardest thing in the world--to do what we want. And it takes the greatest kind of courage. I mean, what we really want. ~ Ayn Rand

Home coming

Home coming is a funny feeling.. We get used to where we are, that where we were seems new again.... never the less, every thing has a memory attached... some sweet, some bitter, and some bittersweet... Can't say I don't miss where I've come from.... but then, I've realized that I miss this too.... No matter how much suffering you went through, you never wanted to let go of those memories. ~ Haruki Murakami

My Mother

Dear Mom, I know that you wish the best for me... and you want everything to be perfect.... You keep taking care of me, whether I tell you or I don't... I understand that you want to protect me from all evil, and want the very best for me always..... But the only way I'll learn is if I make my mistakes.... What may not seem perfect to you, maybe okay for me.... and that's how I start to define my own perfect :) So please bear with me, and my impertinence, when at times, I act like I know what I'm doing.... I may not always do what you want me to, but what you say always stays with me.... So cheer up... because there is only one you.... Love you !! PS: If these are sentiments echoed by others and not just me, I guess its a "Mom"thing :) :D

I believe in You

I may not believe in what you believe... But i believe in you... And to me, that is more important that having to believe in your belief...

Zindagi

Read this recently... struck a chord... मिली थी ज़िन्दगी किसी के काम आने के लिए .. पर वक़्त बीत रहा है कागज़ के टुकड़े कमाने के लिए !!! 

That thought....

What happens when you think that it is all okay... But somewhere, somehow you don't feel it... That there is something brewing in your head, telling you about it... But you just ignore the signs.. We just stop, hoping the moment will pass by... But then realize that it wasn't just a moment !

Gandhi

Gandhi is one of the most critically acclaimed figures of India... I say critically acclaimed because there are almost as many critiques to his ideology as there are followers.... So when he opens the window to his mind and explains his thought process, one can only read with curiosity and intent. I won't say I am a fan or a blind follower of all that this man did... But I can safely admit that I admire some of the things he achieved... And as much as we might criticize him for being over - cordial with Britishers in the initial years, to the final agreement (or should it be called disagreement) over the partition of India, one can't but admire his will power and stubbornness, to achieve what he had set out to do. But the singular thing I'd give most credit to Gandhi ji (or rather The Gandhi) is that he managed to bring the nation together, in a way nobody else could manage, and by doing, what most would have labelled as cowardly action.... Satyagraha. In today

Words

It is amazing how we have an urge to say things... followed by the satisfaction of finally having said it...  followed, more often, by the feeling of regret that one could have avoided saying it in the first place... Words are very tricky... to say something is as risky as not saying it... since once said, it just can't be taken back.... maybe swallowing words in your head is a better option !